WHAT IS FAMILY DISPUTE RESOLUTION (FDR)?
The family law system encourages separated or divorced parents to attend family dispute resolution (FDR), and make a ‘genuine effort’ to resolve their disputes in relation to their children and parenting matters before resorting to the courtroom. It is usually better to resolve dispute through mediation rather than through litigation or arbitration. The mediation process assists all parties to identify their issues, develop various settlement options, and negotiate an acceptable resolution. It is suitable for all disputes regardless of their complexity or the number of parties involved.
Grandparents, aunts, uncles and other important adults in the lives of children can also use family dispute resolution to come to an agreement about these sorts of disputes.
I am an accredited and registered Family Dispute Resolution Practitioner (FDRP) with the Attorney General. I am impartial and even-handed when facilitating the mediation process. I do not control the content that is discussed. Everything discussed is confidential and cannot be used in court, however confidentiality is subject to the limitations of the law.
Over the years, working as a relationship and family therapist, I understand that dealing with conflict, separation and change is hard and filled with difficult emotions. I have witnessed families suffering unnecessary pain due to unresolved conflicts and prolonged legal battle, as a result, I want to provide a mediation process that will allow divorced couples to transition to a future without each other with minimal residual damage, both emotionally and financially, and that includes a healthy co-parenting relationship, if there are children involved.
My mediation approach is holistic, in that I attend to my clients’ psychological and emotional aspects, by providing a gentler, more thoughtful option for separating / divorcing couples. I’m trained to help people regulate their emotions, communicate openly and be more empathic with each other, so they can negotiate effectively in a calmer emotional environment.
I encourage my clients to:
- Communicate with one another respectfully
- Manage their interactions by observing both the content (what they say) and the process (how they say it)
- Be empathic by looking at issues from each other’s perspective
- Understand that seeing and acknowledging the other person’s perspective does not negate their own
- Understand how each person’s own underlying values, beliefs and fear can affect his/her negotiation in achieving positive outcomes
- Identify issues which need to be resolved
- Listen and really hear what the other person is saying and sometime not saying
- Show and share emotions appropriately, instead of acting them out or withdrawing
- Stop blaming each other and to take responsibility for problems, choices, decisions and feelings
- Explore ideas and generate options
- Think and act with the best interests of their children genuinely in mind
- Express clearly what they are saying by using ” I-statement”
- Reality test possible solutions
- Realise that cooperating is in everyone best interests
WHAT ARE THE ADVANTAGES?
- Cost effective
- Time efficient
- Create your own solutions
- Maintain the power to decide
- Private and confidential
- Mutually satisfactory outcomes
- Workable decisions
- High rate of compliance from all participants
CERTIFICATE OF ATTENDANCE
I am authorised to issue Section 60I Certificate. This certificate is required before you can apply to go to court about parenting matters. It will prove to the court that you have attempted mediation but it was not successful or it is not suitable in your case.
For further enquiry, please call me.