Codependent Relationship

What is a Co-dependent Relationship? Co-dependency can occur in any type of relationship, including romantic, peer, family, friendship and work. There is a clear distinction between thoughtful, caring, loving behaviour or feelings that are normal and healthy to those that are excessive to an unhealthy degree by putting other people ahead of yourselves. A healthy relationship is 'inter-dependent' – when partners take care of themselves and each other. A mutually satisfying relationship is where people give, receive and rely on each other equally. Of course, there will be times when one person will carry a bigger load but overall all parties contribute equally to the relationship. A co-dependent relationship occurs when personal boundaries between individuals are broken, unhealthy or don’t exist. Co-dependent people focus on pleasing and accommodating others instead of focusing on themselves. They have a diffuse sense of self, characterised by denial, low self-esteem, excessive compliance or control patterns. Co-dependent people are constantly in search of acceptance; they like to feel they are “needed”. They often find themselves in relationships where their primary role is that of a rescuer, supporter and confidante. They often depend on the other person’s poor functioning to satisfy their own emotional needs. Co-dependent relationships are fraught with resentment, anger, criticism and pain. Here are some signs of a co-dependent relationship: 1. You minimise your needs and preferences. 2. You enable the other person’s unhealthy behaviour and they enable yours. 3. You feel guilty when asserting yourself. 4. Your mood and…

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